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DAY 1: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Anger is a strong emotion of irritation or agitation that occurs when a need or expectaion is not met. Angry people in the Bible are often described as hot-tempered and quick-tempered. Proverbs 29:22 (NIV) An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins. Proverbs 15:18 (NIV) A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.
 DAY 2: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 
Anger is a wide umbrella word covering many levels of emotions: Indignation is simmering anger provoked by something appearing to be unjust or unkind. Wrath often moves from the inner emotion of anger to the outer expression of anger. Fury suggest a powerful force complelled to harm or destroy. Rage is blazing anger resulting in loss of self-control, often the extreme of violence and temporary insanity.  Proverbs 19:3 A man's own folly ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the Lord. 

 DAY 3: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 
Misuse of Anger. Periodically everyone feels the heat of anger, but how you handle the heat determines whether or not you are misusing it. If you are wise, you have learned how to handle your anger and you have learned how to help others handle their anger. Ephesians 4:26 (NIV) “In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.

DAY 4: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Prolonged Anger is "the simmering stew type of anger." This anger is a result of an unforgiving heart toward a past offense and the offender. Unforgiveness left unresolved eventually results in resentment and bitterness, ultimately scalding close relationships. Example: "I'll never forgive the way he talked to me years ago". Hebrews 12:5 (NIV) See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. 
DAY 5: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 
Pressed-down anger is the "pressure cooker" anger is denied or hidden anger. Usually  developing from a fear of facing negative emotions, this kind of anger can create a deceitful heart and lead to untruthfulness with others. Failure to honestly confront and resolve angry feelings can result in self-pity, self-contempt, and self-doubt, ultimately searing close relationships. Example:" I never get angry-maybe just a little irritated at times." 1 Peter 3:10 Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.

 DAY 6: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Provoked Anger is the "short fuse" anger that is quick and impatient, instantly irritated or inscensed. A testy temper is often expressed using criticism or sarcasm under the guise of teasing, ultimately burning close relationships. Example: "I can't believe you said that! You're so childish!"  Ecclesiastes 7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.

DAY 7: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Profuse Anger is the "volatile volcano" anger that is powerful, destructive, hard to control. This way of releasing anger is characterized by contempt, violence and abuse by others, ultimately cremating close relationships. Example: "You fool, If you do that again, you'll wish you'd never been born!" Matthew 5:22 Jesus said " I tell you the truth that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgement, but anyone who says "You fool"  will be in danger of the fire of hell."

DAY 8: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Misplaced Anger is when angry people who are afraid to confront those who hurt them will often pick targets they can safely overpower. Their easy "victory" inflates their sense of power, giving them a false sense of significance. Example: After having a flat tire, the boss begins yelling at this employee...who then goes home and yells at his wife... who then screams at their son... who in turn kicks the cat! This could be called the blame game.  Luke 6:27-29 Love for Enemies. But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you and pray for those who mistreat you. 

DAY 9: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Misplaced Anger- Bullies are known for misplacing their anger onto weaker, more vulnerable people. More often than not, bullying is a case of "playing it safe" and venting on someone who can't fight back. The bully's stored up anger generally comes from being abused by someone they feel powerless to confront. Proverbs 22:24-25 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.

DAY 10: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Misplaced Anger-Abusers commonly spew out their agner on those closest to them-those most vulnerable to them. Almost all abusive adults were abused as children and grew up with the intense pressure of unresolved anger. When their anger ignites, for whatever reason, everyone around them feels the explosion and falls victim to their blistering , lava-like anger. Proverbs 22:8 Whoever sows injustice reaps calamity and the rod they wield in fury will be broken.

DAY 11: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Misplaced Anger-Self-injurious people generally carry a sizeable amount of self-contempt and self-loathing. As children, many were falsely blamed for family problems and assigned the role of family scapegoat. They internalized the lies spoken to them, and now as adults they are quick to assume blame for all that goes wrong around them. The anger they could rightly feel toward others, they wrongly aim back at themselves-anger they are quick to receive. Proverbs 8:36 Those who fail to find me harm themselves; all who hate me love death. 

DAY 12: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER
Misplaced Anger-Self-protectors haven't the strength of character to express their anger toward the people causing their anger. They are the ones who kick the cat when they would really like to kick the boss! They express anger in detrimental, subversive ways. Misplaced anger engulfs an innocent person. Rather than being positive, it produces only pain. In the case of King Saul, his misplaced anger toward David resulted in the murder of 85 priests of God. Matthew 15:19-20 (KJV) For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man. 

DAY 13: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Characteristics of Anger-Hurt Ignites Anger-Betrayal by an enemy certainly hurts our feelings, but betrayal by a friend deeply wounds the soul. Everyone expects opposition from those on the outside, but what do you do when opposition comes from within-from among your own circle, your closest confidants, your trusted few.   Matthew 17:22-23 One day while they were still in Galilee, Jesus told them,“I am going to be betrayed into the power of those who will kill me, and on the third day afterwards I will be brought back to life again.”


DAY 14: 30 DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER

Symbols of Unresolved anger- Prolonged anger fans the flame of bitterness and fuels Unforgiveness. Refusing to face you’re your feelings in a healthy way prolongs unresolved anger until it eventually becomes harbored anger. Unresolved anger is known to produce in many people some of the following physical, emotional, and spiritual symptoms. Physical symptoms include: blurred vision, headaches, heart disease, high blood pressure, Insomnia, intestinal disorders, overeating, stomach disorders. Emotional symptoms include anxiety, fear, bitterness, Insecurity, Compulsions, Depression, Phobias and worry. Spiritual symptoms include: loss of confidence, Loss of energy, loss of faith, loss of freedom, loss of identity, loss of perspective, loss of sensitivity, and loss of vision.


DAY 15: 30 DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Symbols of Hidden Anger? Hidden anger from childhood hurts can directly affect present day outbursts. Many people live life unaware that they have hidden anger-suppressed anger that occasionally surfaces. While this hidden anger is usually rooted in past childhood hurts, the underlying effects are ready to surface and can sizzle up an already simmering scenario.



DAY 16: 30 DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Anger and Irrational Thinking. The body responds to anger in two ways: Inside the body, epinephrine (adrenaline) is released in the adrenal glands, immediately preparing the body for fight or flight. However, if fight or flight does not occur, the highly energized body has difficulty calming down. This is why angry people experience racing heart, shaking hands, and fast breathing. Secondly, the angry person’s hormones then travel from the brain to the adrenal glands, signaling the need for tension reduction y the release of cortisol. However, cortisol raises blood pressure above the norm, which makes rational thinking more difficult.


DAY 17: 30 DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 
Act or React when you are angry. When you are angry, does reason rule the day or do tense emotions take over? Do you allow the mind of Christ within you to make choices that lead to appropriate actions, or do you have knee jerk reactions that lead to inappropriate reactions? If you have never evaluated what happens when you feel angry, or if you don’t know how others perceive you when you are angry, seek God’s wisdom and understanding. Appropriate actions express your thoughts and feelings with restraint, understanding and concern for the other person’s welfare. Inappropriate reactions express your thoughts and feelings in such way that stirs up anger in others and produces strife.

DAY 18: 30 DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Causes of Fear- Fear ignites anger. Exodus 32:19. When Moses approached the cap and saw the calf and the dancing, is anger burned and he threw the tablets out of his hands breaking them to pieces at the foot of the mountain. Moses reacted in anger because he was afraid of God’s righteous anger against his disobedient people would result in their destruction. Instead, repent and no longer look to others to meet your needs. Enter into a deeper dependence on the Lord to meet these God-given needs because The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring shoes waters never fail (Isaiah 58:11).


DAY 19: DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER  

4 sources of Anger- (Rejection or someone’s unkind word) Ask yourself, Am I using anger to try to intimidate or coerce someone to remain in a relationship with me?). Hurt: Your heart is wounded. Everyone has a God-given inner need for unconditional love. When you experience rejection or emotional pain of any kind, anger can become a protective wall keeping people, pain, and hurt away. Answer: God wants you to examine the true source of your anger. It is hurt, injustice, fear, frustration or a combination of these? Then evaluate whether you are using anger to try to get your inner need for love, for significance or for security met. Instead, repent and no longer look to others to meet your needs. Enter into a deeper dependence on the Lord to meet these God-given needs because The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring shoes waters never fail (Isaiah 58:11).


DAY 20: 30 DAYS FOR A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER  

4 Sources of Anger-Injustice: (Victim of unjust situation where you felt powerless- (Ask yourself- Am I using angry, accusatory words to cause someone to feel guilty and obligated to me?). Your rights are violated. Everyone has a knowledge of right and wrong, fair and unfair, just and unjust. When you perceive an injustice has occurred to you or to others (especially to those you love), you may feel angry. If you hold on to the offense, the unresolved anger can begin to take root in your heart. Answer: God wants you to examine the true source of your anger. It is hurt, injustice, fear, frustration or a combination of these? Then evaluate whether you are using anger to try to get your inner need for love, for significance or for security met. In searching your heart, decide that you will not use anger to try to get your needs met. Instead, repent and no longer look to others to meet your needs. Enter into a deeper dependence on the Lord to meet these God given needs (Isaiah 58:11).


DAY 21: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER - FOUR SOURCES OF FEAR

Fear: (Afraid because of a situation you can’t control- (Ask yourself Am I using anger to overpower and control someone in order to get my way?). Your future is threatened. Everyone is created with a God-given inner need for security. When you begin to worry, feel threatened, or get angry because of a change in circumstances, you may be responding to fear. A fearful heart reveals a lack of trust in God’s perfect plan for your life. Example (1 Samuel 18:5-15, 28-29). Saul was threatened by David’s popularity and feared he would lose his kingdom. (1 Samuel 18:8,12). Answer: God wants you to examine the true source of your anger. It is hurt, injustice, fear, frustration or a combination of these? Then evaluate whether you are using anger to try to get your inner need for love, for significance or for security met. Instead, repent and no longer look to others to meet your needs. Enter into a deeper dependence on the Lord to meet these God-given needs because The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring shoes waters never fail (Isaiah 58:11).


Day 22: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER - FOUR SOURCES OF FEAR

Frustration: Frustrated because of something you can’t do? (Ask yourself, am I using angry threats and shaming words to manipulate someone to meet my demands?) Your performance is not accepted. Everyone has a God-given inner need for significance. When your efforts are thwarted or do not meet your own personal expectations, your sense of significance can be threatened. Frustration over unmet expectations of yourself or of others in a major source of anger. (Genesis 4:3-5,8). Cain became angry and depressed when God didn’t accept his offering but accepted his brother’s offering and killed his brother. Answer: God wants you to examine the true source of your anger. It is hurt, injustice, fear, frustration or a combination of these? Then evaluate whether you are using anger to try to get your inner need for love, for significance or for security met. Instead, repent and no longer look to others to meet your needs. Enter into a deeper dependence on the Lord to meet these God-given needs because The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring shoes waters never fail (Isaiah 58:11).


DAY 23: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER- FOUR SOURCES OF FEAR 

 Anger: Have you been hurt by rejection or someone’s unkind words? (Ask yourself, Am I using anger to try to intimidate or coerce someone to remain in a healthy relationship with me?) In searching your heart, decide that you will not use anger to try to get your needs met. Instead, repent and no longer look to others to meet your needs. Enter into a deeper dependence on the Lord to meet these God-given needs because The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring shoes waters never fail (Isaiah 58:11).


 DAY 24: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER- FOUR SOURCES OF FEAR

Inappropriate Anger: Sudden Increase in Anger Intensity: Anger can intensify seemingly coming out of nowhere, warranting close examination of its cause. Change in behavior and mood; from Drug abuse (steroid, cocaine etc.); medications (certain antidepressants); head injury, (sports, fall, car accident etc.); chemical deficiencies, (hormonal imbalances); Illness or disease (brain tumor, brain cancer); physical stress and emotional trauma (post-traumatic stress disorder); Spiritual rebellion (blatant refusal to acknowledge, worship or obey God. Sudden changes of behavior warrant a close examination as to what could be a physical cause, especially in the brain. Be prudent-don’t judge too quickly and see knowledge because “Every prudent man acts out of knowledge, but a fool exposes his folly (proverbs 13:16).


Day 25: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 
Anger and Depression: Can depression be caused by anger? Yes. If you have anger but do not process and release it, over time your anger can turn inward, which often produces depression. But there are other causes of depression as well. Clinical depression can result when the physical body does not naturally produce essential mood-elevating chemicals. Chemical depression can develop when medications interfere with a production of certain neuro transmitters. Postpartum depression occurs in some mothers when their hormone levels drop following the birth of their babies. Situational depression is caused by painful situations in which the heart is grieved (for example, death of a loved one, divorce, job loss). Regardless of the cause of a person’s depression, hope and praise are effective antidotes. Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I WILL YET PRAISE HIM, MY SAVIOR AND MY GOD. PSALM 42:11.

Day 26: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

When it comes to anger, unrealistic expectations can be harmful: much like trying to put out a fire with gasoline. The primary problem with unrealistic expectations centers around the simple word “pride”. We would be wise to ask the Lord “Do I act as though I am the center of my world and everything revolves around me?” The Bible describes angry reactions resulting from unmet expectations. What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet but you cannot have with you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures… God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. James 4:1-3, 6.  Ephesians 4:26

26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.


Day 27: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Anger toward circumstances: I expected good things would always come my way-but my life is clearly not what I had expected. The more we expect God and people to do what we want, the angrier we become when they fail us. Truth is the more we try to control others, the more control we give them over ourselves. The more demands we put on to others, the more power we give them to anger us. Instead we need to humble ourselves and submit to God’s sovereignty over our lives and over the lives of others. We need to leave our desires and our destiny in His hands-where they rightly belong.  Philippians 4:6-8 6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.


Day 28: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER

Anger toward others: I expected you to always be here for me, to love and support me – but now I feel alone and lonely. Truth is the more we try to control others, the more control we give them over ourselves. The more demands we put on to others, the more power we give them to anger us. Instead we need to humble ourselves and submit to God’s sovereignty over our lives and over the lives of others. We need to leave our desires and our destiny in His hands-where they rightly belong. The bible says we are to lay our hopes and expectations before the Lord and allow Him to determine what we should receive. Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him (Psalm 62:5).


Day 29: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Anger toward yourself: “I expected to always excel-but now I am struggling and feel like a failure.” Or anger over the losses in your life. When you experience significant loss in your life, you will go through a time of grieving. Admit your feelings-your hurt, sense of injustice, fear, or frustration. Release to God all the pain you feel, along with the situations beyond your control; Release to God all the pain you feel, along with the situations beyond your control. Trust God to give you the grace and insight to deal constructively with each loss. Release your expectation that life must go your way. Repeatedly remind yourself to Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus, 1 Thessalonians 5:18. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.


Day 30: 30 DAYS TO A BETTER LIFE: HOW TO MANAGE ANGER 

Anger toward God: I expected God to protect me from pain and provide health and wealth as He promised-but He hasn’t answered my prayers. Your anger at God is based on unrealistic expectations. While you were completely sincere, those who taught you this expectation were sincerely wrong. “If we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And … we know that we have what we asked of him 1 John 5:14-15.